Wednesday, July 13, 2011
More than ever before we face a rising tide of uncertainty about the future –about the personal lives and the purpose and meaning of our social institutions.
We become strikingly aware that life’s lessons are to be learnt on a daily basis. And one of the greatest teachers is uncertainty.
“Are you sure ?” is something we hear again and again as we grow up in life, and so we come to believe we always ought to be certain. However there is often real value in uncertainty.
Uncertainty invites us to slow down in order to understand, to see better, to live better. Uncertainty invites us to be patient towards all that is unsolved in our hearts. “Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given to you because you would not be able to live them .And the point is, to live everything. Live the question now. Perhaps you will find them gradually, without noticing it, and live along some distant day into the answer.
We so badly want things in life to be predictable; we want all our choices to be good ones. But we also claim we long for transformation.
Certainty and comfort are hardly conducive to transformation.
A key to transformation is the stage of confusion, discomfort and uncertainty. When time seems to pass at a different pace and when the space around us seems unfamiliar. We live for a while in that nowhere land, somewhere between ‘no longer’ and ‘not yet’. But without that unsettling period, where most of our learning and growth actually happens, we do not come through to the other side changed and better equipped for what life has to offer.
The one certainty is that life is uncertain. We often live as though nothing will change, but it does. The continuous battle between wanting things to stay the same and finding that nothing stays the same creates tension in us. We choose to fear or helplessness, or with eager acceptance of what lies ahead.
The gift that uncertainty offers is the ability to move on.
Present moment wonderful moment encapsulates that life is available only in the present moment, and whatever lies ahead might be a series of wonderful moments.
Everyday people face negative experiences. Whether of greater or lesser import, people generally like to dwell on these negative experiences. Once this becomes a habit, it has a negative effect. Then the unpleasant experiences become a part of our active memory, till it becomes a jungle of negativity. So it is best to forget these kinds of sad events.
In our case what happened was beyond our control, but it is in our hands to forget it and prevent it from becoming a part of our memory. If others are not ready to take your advice on this you had better become its first follower.
Try to forget unpleasant memories, for the alternative to this is living in bitterness and that is not a good choice for anyone.
The habit of forgetting leads to many good things .It saves you from distraction, it prevents you from wasting your time and it shields you from negative thoughts. All these things are so important for a better life.
In life our share is 50% and the rest of the 50% is supplied by others. Living with bitter memories means we are not ready to accept the law of nature. We cannot change the law of nature so change our self. This will give us the gift of a comfortable life in every situation.
Memory is an integral part of our mind. There is no escape from memory .The only option is try not to make memory a part of our conscious mind, but relegate it to unconscious mind. And the forgetting habit serves that very purpose. We cannot delete our memory from our minds but we can make it ineffective by storing it in the memory archives.
Memory when good is a positive guide and when bad is totally negative. One has to control our memory rather than be controlled by it. Make the memory the intellectual storehouse and not the master of our daily conduct.
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